Sleeping Time

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In spanish we say, what it is promised is owed. I started saying this phrase because around September last year I promised I was going to write about sleeping time which at that moment I could not do so since I was having a quite tough time with my babies. Could you imagine 4 sleeping in a bed? There were times that I wanted to scream of tireness, but here we are after 4 months in a different stage. 🙂

I even read a book to get some tips to get them to sleep the whole night in their cots, and now I notice that there are a few things I belive help them to sleep through the nigth. One of them is to change cots for normal beds or use the cot taking the sides off and place it in the lowest level just for safety. This works with my first child very well, she used to sleep until 6 or 7 am without any problem, and if she woke up before I could stay next to her to reasure her and she would not complain and fell straight back to sleep. I could not do this with my second child because we were using a travel cot for him, so as soon he woke up, he started crying and the only way to make him sleep again was taking him to my bed, hard time!!, this was the way we ended up 4 in a bed.

Recently we decided to get a bunk bed, and taraaa, my little boy is sleeping whole night, and my daughter is being a little bit cheeky going to my bed after mid night, this is another story. Another thing we do when we get them to sleep is to stay with them in bed reading stories and singing, great way to make them sleep straight away, it needs our attention and time though, I know not every parent wants to stay with their children until they fall sleep, but I promise you, it is a great time.

As you can see I am not friend of the crying method, I could not find myself letting them cry not even for 5min, I feel distress, so I ended up following my heart and spending some calming time with them to go to sleep. Eventually, they will go to their bed by themselves.

Last but not least important, physical activities during the day is a great idea to make them spend some of that full energy they usually have, then they go to sleep without any excuses. The books I have read to help me on this matter are:

I hope these advices are usefull for some parents. What other things have you tried?? 🙂

Thank you and Love

Marialegs

 

 

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In this home not everything is rose

I always remember when I used to believe that my parents were perfect, that kind of perfection that does not exist, there is no problem of any kind( I was about 5 years old). However, when time passed I realised that, that perfection it is not what I believed.

It is possible to find any type of problems in a family, emotional, economical, for lack of time to share, for broken relationships, everything is possible. But what we are doing to keep up the love is what counts.

There has been ups and down like in life, it is part of a cycle. To make the cycle vibrate in a higher level or in a more harmonious  way, we have grown the plant(our relationship) with respect, with respect that means not only to respect each other point of view but also to know how to respect ourselves without attacking each other, and I promise it is hard, but there is nothing more interesting than having different opinions about something, makes us use our brains, re evaluate our words and sometimes even agree with each other.

Like in life, everything in a family is respect, negotiation, tones of love and patient..

Remember that every rose comes with thorns.

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Happy mother’s day!! 🙂

Thank you and Love

Marialegs

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Comfort Zone

Comfort Zone came to me through facebook in an amazing video that I could not find in english but it is also drawn which I think can help everyone understand it in any language. Click here Comfort Zone  to see the video.
The name comfort for me was a bit disturbing, so I started reading more about it and I watched the video a few more times. By watching the video I realised that being in the comfort zone is not something bad, it is just your routines and day to day life, this part rung a bell to me because when we are mums it is quite difficult to get out of this space. Having said that the video explains how to get out of this space, it clearly says by, learning something new, new experiences, traveling and so on, which then finishes by saying that doing any of these things will expand your comfort zone not get rid of it.
Another thing that makes me think about the name was that comfort means good feelings, ease, thus I found another good work about the comfort zone by Charles Burke where he says:
“But here’s a shocking idea: nobody moves because they’re comfortable. And nobody
— NOBODY — moves out of a REAL comfort zone.
 
Just look around you. Isn’t it true? Most people only move when they’ve become so
uncomfortable they can’t stand the same old spot any longer.
 
When your “comfort” zone is that uncomfortable, how accurate is the description?
 
Maybe it’d make more sense to call it a “Familiar Zone.””scan0002
Another word that comes to my mind by reading all of these is conformist which is by definition, “A person who uncritically or habitually conforms to the customs, rules, or styles of a group.” I think this type of person are the ones who can stay without making any difference in life apart from all of us who feel emotions like fear that sometimes if we do not know how to manage it, it could make us be stuck and without energy to go for our dreams.
Here is the meaning of comfort zone, The comfort zone is a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance, usually without a sense of risk (White 2009, From Comfort Zone to Performance Management).
So after all, I think the key is to take the risk to follow our dreams and expand our comfort zone through looking within ourselves. This is another thing I took from Charles Burke
“Some sage or other once said, “If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him.”
He’s not inciting us to commit murder. He’s telling us to stop looking for the truth in
somebody else. Real meaning – we must kill that urge within ourselves that looks to
others for power. We must realize that all power is within ourselves.”
Give these some thoughts and then let me know how you will expand your comfort zone.
I have just found the video in english, so click in this one Comfort zone. Remember this video is something I found and I want to share with you, the company that made it is called Inknwoation.
Thank you and Love
Marialegs
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